Finn is 5 months old tomorrow and our breastfeeding journey is still going strong! That may mean little or nothing to some but to me, it's great! I was only able to EBF (exclusively breastfeed) Max for 3.5 months and by the time he was 4 months old, my supply was totally gone. I have absolutely NOTHING against formula. I am so thankful that science has created such a great alternative for breastmilk. Without it, I would have been at a total loss when Max was a baby. The thing is, I WANTED to breastfeed him longer. Honestly, I just didn't know what I was doing. I should have asked questions. I should've contacted a lactation specialist. Shoulda woulda coulda. I was 24 years old with my first baby and I thought that it came naturally. And if not naturally and easily then well, you just buy formula. Now, I'm not an expert but I wanted to share some lessons that I have learned that have helped me be more successful (thus far) this time around.
1. Getting a good pump. My AWESOME friends got me a Medela double electric breast pump and it is AMAZING. With Max, I wasn't prepared. I got a Medela manual hand pump AFTER my milk came in and had a friend show me how to use it. It's fine if the alternative is no pump. But truth be told, it sucked!!!!! It killed my hands to use it and it didn't express much milk. I basically only used it when my milk first came in and was painfully engorged. This time, I got my pump beforehand and it has helped so much! I have been able to store some and it expresses MUCH more than my hand pump could've dreamed of.
2. Pumping does not equal supply. This may seem like a contradiction from my first "lesson" but it's not. I LOVE that pump and a good pump can make a huge difference BUT it doesn't mean everything. I thought that pumping was a direct reflection of how much milk I made. It wasn't. No matter how great the pump is, it is true that nothing can express milk from the breast like a baby can. I thought that since my hand pump was only expressing half of an ounce after 45 minutes of trying, I had no milk left. This was not the case as Max weighed around 16 pounds by 3 months so CLEARLY he was doing fine. If baby is gaining weight and has enough wet diapers, there is no issue. Also, some women just do not respond as well to a pump like others. I know some that can bust out 10 ounces in 5 minutes while others take 30 minutes to get 3-4 ounces. Maybe there IS a supply issue, but maybe there is not. What I'm saying is, you don't have to give up based solely on what you are able to pump. That's what I did with Max and I was wrong. I did not have a supply issue until I started giving him formula and slowly stopped breastfeeding.
3. Drinking & eating. When Max was first born I was so concerned with taking care of him that I didn't take care of myself. I drank next to nothing and ate about as much because I didn't have much of an appetite in the beginning. Sure I lost all of the baby weight by one month postpartum but I wasn't healthy. The thing with breastfeeding is, you HAVE to drink a lot of water and consume enough calories to have a good supply. This time, I made it a point to eat those first few weeks.. Even if I didn't "feel" hungry. Then, once my hormones balanced out a little, my appetite came back with a vengeance. Now I'm constantly hungry. I'm still 5 lbs from my pre-Finn weight and about 15 from where I want to be but that's okay with me for now. I'll get there soon enough. Also, I drink lactation tea and I eat oatmeal several times a week. They say it's good for your supply. Not sure who "they" are, but I do it and I think it does!
4. Engorgement does not equal supply. Sure, when your boobs are full they swell BUT once your supply settles in, they become less engorged. This doesn't mean they are empty. A nurse I had with Finn (bless you, Tanya) told me "the older the baby, the softer the breast" and that really stuck with me! With Max, I thought that if my boobs weren't rock hard and bursting that they weren't full. They were, they just weren't engorged. There is a difference. I know that now but I didn't then.
5. Babies need to nurse for long periods of time. Not true. Some babies nurse for 30 minutes on each side, some only nurse for 5. My boys were/are not long feeders. I can count on one hand how many times Finn has nursed for longer than 10 minutes. I thought this was wrong with Max because I thought that they needed to nurse for longer. The truth is, some babies (and especially over time) become more efficient at the breast. They may be able to empty the breast in 5 minutes while others take longer. There is nothing wrong with either way, it simply depends on the baby! It is not a reflection of supply. Baby may just have their groove down pat and don't need to nurse as long as others, or maybe as long as they did before.
Maybe it was my own insecurities about not being able to be as successful as I imagined with Max, but hearing those "breast is best" speeches always rubbed me the wrong way. Like I wasn't doing what was best. It especially upset me because I wanted to do more, I just didn't know how. So maybe this could help someone to learn from me! Remember: if baby is gaining weight and has enough wet diapers, there is nothing wrong with your breastfeeding! On the flip side, if you choose to go the formula route, good for you! We are fortunate to have the option of formula and you ARE doing what's best. Keep up the good work!
Now........ my next task is to get him to stop biting me. It's a wonder he hasn't taken a nipple clean off with his little razor teeth. If I solve this problem, I'll let ya know!
Wednesday, November 5, 2014
Tuesday, August 5, 2014
And then there were 2
My last post was written when I had 8 weeks until my due date. Now, I have an 8 week old baby boy! It's been too long, my friends. I've been wanting to write for a while but I just haven't been able to find the time since Finn was born. And speaking of Finn, I want to share his birth story while it's fresh in my mind. So here it is.....
On Thursday May 29 around 5 p.m. I felt some wetness. I stood up and felt more. I ran to the bathroom and felt more leaking. This is it, I thought, it's time. We went to the hospital and after several checks and an ultrasound to check my fluid level, I was told that I was not leaking amniotic fluid. What the heck! What is it then?? "See that right there? That's baby's head right on your bladder," the young doctor told me with a smile, "it's just urine." I was less than amused. How embarrassing. So glad that my parents, sister, sister-in-law, and mother-in-law had made the hour to hour and a half drive over just to be told that I peed my pants. Super!
Friday May 30: I had my 39 week check up. I was told I would not be induced unless I went past my due date (June 6). The earliest I would be induced was Monday June 9. I really wanted to go into labor on my own BUT at this point, I was just ready for him to be here so I agreed to that. My doctor offered to do a "membrane sweep" which means she used her fingers to detach the amniotic sac from the uterine wall. "If it's going to work, you will go into labor within 24-48 hours," she told me. YES! I thought. Good. He should come this weekend.
Nope.
Thursday June 5: I woke up with an aching back. At 9:30 a.m. I felt a contraction. Not a painful one, just another Braxton Hicks contraction which I had been having daily for the past 8 weeks. At 9:37, another one. For the next couple of hours they came 7-8 minutes apart. Still not painful, but steady. Then they started to come 6 minutes apart for a couple hours. I called my mother in law to head over to stay with Max. "Something is happening" I told her. The next couple of hours they came 4-5 minutes apart. Mike came home from work. "Just tell me when you want to go to the hospital" he said. I wanted to wait at home as long as possible because I did NOT want to get sent home. I told my parents that we would be going to the hospital soon so they hopped in their car. At 4:45 p.m. with contractions coming 3-5 minutes apart, I decided we should go. I was getting more uncomfortable but I wasn't in actual PAIN yet.
We got to the hospital and I was checked. 2 centimeters. WHAT?! I had been at 1-2 cm for 2 weeks!! Why aren't these contractions doing something yet?! "They're gonna send me home if I don't progress soon," I told Mike, "and if they do, we will be back in the middle of the night because I know it's happening soon." An hour later, I was still dilated to just a "maybe 2". My nurse, Becky, left to speak with a doctor. I was holding back tears. Please don't send me home I thought, I know I'll just be back later if you do...
The sweet resident doctor who I had been mad at the week prior when he told me about my leaky bladder came into my room. "Okay, here's the deal," he said, "you are in early labor. Very early. You're 40 weeks tomorrow and would be induced Monday anyway so I want to keep you... But I need to speak with my attending doctor." He left the room. "Let's go for a walk," I told Mike. As we entered the hallway, I literally ran into my doctor. "MALLORY!!!! You just made my day! I was SO EXCITED when they told me you were here!!!!" She exclaimed. Side note: my doctor is also a resident. She is a captain in the Air Force and stands at about 5 feet tall and can't possibly be much older than I am, if she is older at all. She hugged me. "We are keeping you." Mike hugged me and I cried. WE'RE HAVING A BABY!!! They insert some medicine into my cervix to help with dilation. My parents arrive and I do some walking. We wait.... And wait.... And wait some more.
"We don't want you to be in too much pain. You need your energy when it's time to push later so tell me when you're ready for some medicine," the anesthesiologist tells me. Yes, I will be having an epidural. I have ZERO DESIRE to have a "natural birth". ZILCH.
We wait.
At 3:00 a.m. I have finally reached 5cm and I'm feeling pretty uncomfortable. Not in HORRIBLE pain yet, but we are getting there. I agree to the epidural. At 3:30, I'm feeling good and I tell my nurse, now Robin after a shift change, that I'm going to try to sleep. And sleep I do....
7:30 a.m. Dr. Cadle (my doc) and Becky (back after another shift change) enter my room and I wake up. Whoa, I just slept for 4 hours!! They check me. Still at a 5. WHAT?! I stalled at 8 with Max and now I'm stalled at 5. Grrrrr. Here comes some pitocin. Mike helps me brush my teeth HAHA since I can't get out of bed and we wait...
9:30 a.m. I feel a gush of fluid. Oh geez, I freaking peed myself AGAIN. Wait.... I have a catheter.. That's amniotic fluid! Yay!!! My water broke! Becky enters and checks. "Yes, it definitely broke and there's some meconium which means baby might've gotten a little stressed and pooped." Yikes. That makes me nervous :-/ they turn down the pitocin and clean me and my bed. We wait....
3:15 p.m. Dr. Cadle and Becky enter again. My mom and Mike have dozed off. "I'm feeling aching in my butt," I tell them. Dr. Cadle checks me. "Oh! He's right here. You want to try to push?" Push?! What?? I wasn't expecting that yet. "Okay... Yeah let's push!" I say. I push once. "Okay, he's coming! Let me get changed!" She tells me. My mom and Mike jump up. Dr. Cadle slips on some scrubs. Mike runs out of the room LOL I think he was in a panic. "Go get dad," Becky tells my mom. Mike walks into the room covering his eyes haha! Poor guy is squeamish and a nervous wreck. This is his first birthing experience since he was gone for Max's. Mike walks to the head of my bed and Becky teases him about passing out. Everyone is so laid back! "We are going to do this slow to try and avoid a tear," Dr. Cadle says. I push for 10 seconds then rest. I push for 5 then rest. I push for 8. "Okay. Mallory, push towards my hand." I do what she says.
3:34 p.m. Finn Michael is born. He weighs 8 pounds 1 ounce and is 20 inches long. Becky wraps him in a towel and gives him to me. I snuggle my boy- who has a little hair! Dr. Cadle tells me that she doesn't have any work to do. What?! No stitches???? Nope! What?!?!?!? After a traumatic delivery with Max, this was an absolute BREEZE. I don't even feel like I had a baby!! They tell me it's bonding time and to call when he's ready for a bath. Dr. Cadle and Becky leave the room. I pass Finn to Mike. Then he passes him to my mom. Then back to me and I nurse him for 25 minutes! What a champ!! We snuggle our baby, who is still naked except for a towel. I will never forget these moments. When I had Max they put him on my chest for all of 15 seconds before whisking him off to the warmer and cleaning him up. This was so different. It was such a beautiful time.
Finn was a couple hours old before Becky came back in and cleaned him up so I could eat dinner. We had a few visitors: my dad, sister, sister in law, and my mother in law who brought big brother Max! He didn't know what to think at first. I think he was overwhelmed. He warmed up after about an hour and was ready to touch him. I showered and we headed to our postpartum room. Our visitors left and Mike and I spent our first night with Finn in the hospital. 25 hours after he was born, we were discharged and headed home!
Finn will be 2 months old tomorrow. He has his 2 month check up later this week so I'm not sure how big he is now but he has grown A LOT! He is outgrowing his size 1 diapers and his 0-3 month clothes. He smiles all the time :-) he LOVES to cuddle, he loves his brother, he loves to eat. Nursing is going well for the both of us. Most nights he wakes every 2.5-3 hours. I'm exhausted but wouldn't change anything. It's hard to believe that I now have TWO boys. Two beautiful, healthy boys. My heart is so full!
On Thursday May 29 around 5 p.m. I felt some wetness. I stood up and felt more. I ran to the bathroom and felt more leaking. This is it, I thought, it's time. We went to the hospital and after several checks and an ultrasound to check my fluid level, I was told that I was not leaking amniotic fluid. What the heck! What is it then?? "See that right there? That's baby's head right on your bladder," the young doctor told me with a smile, "it's just urine." I was less than amused. How embarrassing. So glad that my parents, sister, sister-in-law, and mother-in-law had made the hour to hour and a half drive over just to be told that I peed my pants. Super!
Friday May 30: I had my 39 week check up. I was told I would not be induced unless I went past my due date (June 6). The earliest I would be induced was Monday June 9. I really wanted to go into labor on my own BUT at this point, I was just ready for him to be here so I agreed to that. My doctor offered to do a "membrane sweep" which means she used her fingers to detach the amniotic sac from the uterine wall. "If it's going to work, you will go into labor within 24-48 hours," she told me. YES! I thought. Good. He should come this weekend.
Nope.
Thursday June 5: I woke up with an aching back. At 9:30 a.m. I felt a contraction. Not a painful one, just another Braxton Hicks contraction which I had been having daily for the past 8 weeks. At 9:37, another one. For the next couple of hours they came 7-8 minutes apart. Still not painful, but steady. Then they started to come 6 minutes apart for a couple hours. I called my mother in law to head over to stay with Max. "Something is happening" I told her. The next couple of hours they came 4-5 minutes apart. Mike came home from work. "Just tell me when you want to go to the hospital" he said. I wanted to wait at home as long as possible because I did NOT want to get sent home. I told my parents that we would be going to the hospital soon so they hopped in their car. At 4:45 p.m. with contractions coming 3-5 minutes apart, I decided we should go. I was getting more uncomfortable but I wasn't in actual PAIN yet.
We got to the hospital and I was checked. 2 centimeters. WHAT?! I had been at 1-2 cm for 2 weeks!! Why aren't these contractions doing something yet?! "They're gonna send me home if I don't progress soon," I told Mike, "and if they do, we will be back in the middle of the night because I know it's happening soon." An hour later, I was still dilated to just a "maybe 2". My nurse, Becky, left to speak with a doctor. I was holding back tears. Please don't send me home I thought, I know I'll just be back later if you do...
The sweet resident doctor who I had been mad at the week prior when he told me about my leaky bladder came into my room. "Okay, here's the deal," he said, "you are in early labor. Very early. You're 40 weeks tomorrow and would be induced Monday anyway so I want to keep you... But I need to speak with my attending doctor." He left the room. "Let's go for a walk," I told Mike. As we entered the hallway, I literally ran into my doctor. "MALLORY!!!! You just made my day! I was SO EXCITED when they told me you were here!!!!" She exclaimed. Side note: my doctor is also a resident. She is a captain in the Air Force and stands at about 5 feet tall and can't possibly be much older than I am, if she is older at all. She hugged me. "We are keeping you." Mike hugged me and I cried. WE'RE HAVING A BABY!!! They insert some medicine into my cervix to help with dilation. My parents arrive and I do some walking. We wait.... And wait.... And wait some more.
"We don't want you to be in too much pain. You need your energy when it's time to push later so tell me when you're ready for some medicine," the anesthesiologist tells me. Yes, I will be having an epidural. I have ZERO DESIRE to have a "natural birth". ZILCH.
We wait.
At 3:00 a.m. I have finally reached 5cm and I'm feeling pretty uncomfortable. Not in HORRIBLE pain yet, but we are getting there. I agree to the epidural. At 3:30, I'm feeling good and I tell my nurse, now Robin after a shift change, that I'm going to try to sleep. And sleep I do....
7:30 a.m. Dr. Cadle (my doc) and Becky (back after another shift change) enter my room and I wake up. Whoa, I just slept for 4 hours!! They check me. Still at a 5. WHAT?! I stalled at 8 with Max and now I'm stalled at 5. Grrrrr. Here comes some pitocin. Mike helps me brush my teeth HAHA since I can't get out of bed and we wait...
9:30 a.m. I feel a gush of fluid. Oh geez, I freaking peed myself AGAIN. Wait.... I have a catheter.. That's amniotic fluid! Yay!!! My water broke! Becky enters and checks. "Yes, it definitely broke and there's some meconium which means baby might've gotten a little stressed and pooped." Yikes. That makes me nervous :-/ they turn down the pitocin and clean me and my bed. We wait....
3:15 p.m. Dr. Cadle and Becky enter again. My mom and Mike have dozed off. "I'm feeling aching in my butt," I tell them. Dr. Cadle checks me. "Oh! He's right here. You want to try to push?" Push?! What?? I wasn't expecting that yet. "Okay... Yeah let's push!" I say. I push once. "Okay, he's coming! Let me get changed!" She tells me. My mom and Mike jump up. Dr. Cadle slips on some scrubs. Mike runs out of the room LOL I think he was in a panic. "Go get dad," Becky tells my mom. Mike walks into the room covering his eyes haha! Poor guy is squeamish and a nervous wreck. This is his first birthing experience since he was gone for Max's. Mike walks to the head of my bed and Becky teases him about passing out. Everyone is so laid back! "We are going to do this slow to try and avoid a tear," Dr. Cadle says. I push for 10 seconds then rest. I push for 5 then rest. I push for 8. "Okay. Mallory, push towards my hand." I do what she says.
3:34 p.m. Finn Michael is born. He weighs 8 pounds 1 ounce and is 20 inches long. Becky wraps him in a towel and gives him to me. I snuggle my boy- who has a little hair! Dr. Cadle tells me that she doesn't have any work to do. What?! No stitches???? Nope! What?!?!?!? After a traumatic delivery with Max, this was an absolute BREEZE. I don't even feel like I had a baby!! They tell me it's bonding time and to call when he's ready for a bath. Dr. Cadle and Becky leave the room. I pass Finn to Mike. Then he passes him to my mom. Then back to me and I nurse him for 25 minutes! What a champ!! We snuggle our baby, who is still naked except for a towel. I will never forget these moments. When I had Max they put him on my chest for all of 15 seconds before whisking him off to the warmer and cleaning him up. This was so different. It was such a beautiful time.
Finn was a couple hours old before Becky came back in and cleaned him up so I could eat dinner. We had a few visitors: my dad, sister, sister in law, and my mother in law who brought big brother Max! He didn't know what to think at first. I think he was overwhelmed. He warmed up after about an hour and was ready to touch him. I showered and we headed to our postpartum room. Our visitors left and Mike and I spent our first night with Finn in the hospital. 25 hours after he was born, we were discharged and headed home!
Finn will be 2 months old tomorrow. He has his 2 month check up later this week so I'm not sure how big he is now but he has grown A LOT! He is outgrowing his size 1 diapers and his 0-3 month clothes. He smiles all the time :-) he LOVES to cuddle, he loves his brother, he loves to eat. Nursing is going well for the both of us. Most nights he wakes every 2.5-3 hours. I'm exhausted but wouldn't change anything. It's hard to believe that I now have TWO boys. Two beautiful, healthy boys. My heart is so full!
Friday, April 11, 2014
Pregnancy Woes
Disclaimer: some mild complaining ahead... along with maybe a little TMI.
Okay so, we all know that pregnancy is a wonderful and miraculous experience. It brings the most amazing blessing that can ever be received. There is nothing that I wouldn't do for my (now 2!) boys, nowhere I wouldn't go for them. There is no greater joy in my life than being their mommy!
I can only speak for myself but, sometimes I feel guilty for complaining about my pregnancy woes. There are so many women who long to get pregnant or to have a healthy pregnancy and my heart aches for them. They may want to slap me for saying this, and that's okay- I understand... but I'm also allowed my opinion and feelings.
I AM OVER BEING PREGNANT.
At 32 weeks with son #2, I am OVER IT. Some women absolutely love being pregnant. They would do it 100x if they could. I am not one of them. This will be our final baby (unless by some act of God) and I have truly tried to enjoy this as much as possible, knowing that I will not be doing this again. But truth be told..... can it be over already?!
A friend of mine who is also pregnant (a few weeks ahead of me) sent me a message earlier this week that read "are you as miserable as I am?" and I replied "YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" It was nice to know that I am not the only one who feels this way! And maybe we *aren't supposed to say it* but some things about pregnancy really are not fun.
This is my experience.
From the time that word "pregnant" shows up on that test... or a double line... or a little + sign appears, it all begins. It's really amazing how quickly things begin to change.
-------1st trimester--------
1. Bloating- take that pre-menstrual bloat and multiply it by 5.
2. Urination- as my body begins to produce more water and my uterus grows, the frequent urination begins.
3. Boobs- my boobs begin to swell (the part I like LOL) but with the good comes the bad and they are so sore, I can't stand to touch them. Also, my veins in them become darker and more prominent and it looks as though someone has drawn a road map across my chest.
4. Fatigue- after doing absolutely nothing, I feel as though I have ran a half marathon. I can't get enough sleep.
5. Moodiness- think I'm moody the week of my period? Imagine that lasting for approximately 10 weeks. Yeah.... my poor husband!! I feel like a monster has invaded my brain and there is nothing I can do about it.
6. Nausea: If I even THINK about going more than 2 hours without a little snack, I am sick. If I eat too much, I am sick. If I eat something that my little womb resident disagrees with, I am sick. However, I was one of the lucky ones. I only vomited a couple times a week and it stopped at the end of the first trimester. Some of my fellow preggo sisters were extremely sick the ENTIRE time. I am SO sorry for them!
The great part about the first trimester is seeing your little babe and hearing their heart beat for the first time. That part is truly awesome and makes the crappiness worth it!
-------2nd trimester-------
Okay, the second trimester (in my opinion) rocks. I regain some energy! My nausea subsides! My moodiness (for the most part *wink wink*) also subsides! My boobs are still getting bigger (score for me!) and I won't complain about that ;-) My nipples are getting large and weird but I don't mind that all that much. And, yes, I'm peeing like a racehorse but who cares?! I feel great! I enjoy indulging in my cravings. I am beginning to have a baby bump and feel sorta cute in my little preggo tops. I also start to feel baby move... which might be my favorite part of all! I also get to find out baby's gender... super exciting!!! If the second trimester lasted forever, I may have a ton of kids! But it doesn't.......
------3rd trimester----------
This is where things get hairy... literally.
1. Weight- obviously weight gain comes with pregnancy and I am totally okay with that. BUT.... all of the sudden I have a ginormous belly. I can hardly bend over to shave my legs. I am shaving other parts blindly. I can't paint my toenails. My belly gets in the way when I try to reach the clothes in the bottom of the washing machine. Nothing fits comfortably except for my husband's clothes. Which, unfortunately, are not acceptable to wear in public.
2. Urination- I am peeing every 1.5 hours through the night. I am peeing when I try to lift Max out of the tub. I am peeing when I bend over to pick up toys. I am peeing ALL THE TIME AND ALL OVER THE PLACE. Someone get me a diaper!!!!!!!!!!
3. Acid reflux- in the past week, I have developed acid reflux. If I bend over, I can feel it. When I'm laying in bed at night, I can feel it. If you've never experienced it, it feels like a burning sensation in your esophagus and every so often a little vomit starts to creep up and then you get to swallow it. It's quite unpleasant.
4. Constipation- enough said. It's also uncomfortable to sit on the toilet for long periods of time. And don't get me started on hemorrhoids.
5. Boobs- they are huge. Which I personally don't mind since "not pregnant Mallory" was not blessed with a large chest. However, the nip situation is out of control. I mean they are getting real weird. And sometimes they leak with a little colostrum. Yep, more bodily fluid leakage.
6. Swelling: felt like going to the zoo last weekend. By the end of the day, my feet were puffy and swollen and you could see the indention of my shoe. Cankles?? Oh yeah!
7. Restless nights- aside from constant urination, it's SO hard to get decent sleep because I am so uncomfortable. I am normally a belly/side sleeper which is obviously out of the question at this point. I find it incredibly odd and uncomfortable to sleep on my back. The solution is to sleep on your side with a body pillow or any pillow wedged between your belly and the bed and also between your legs. This brings great comfort... momentarily. After an hour-ish, the side that I'm laying on has gone numb and I have to switch sides. Repeat approximately 6 times throughout the night.
8. Random aches: my lower back has a constant dull ache. Could be my little guy's position, could be due to the damage on my tailbone from Max's delivery. Whatever it is, it is annoying and painful. My sweet husband gets the task of rubbing it numerous times a week. Lucky him! Also, last night I woke up to cramping in my legs and literally had to get up and start stretching at 3 a.m. Oh, and on days when I've done "too much" (which basically consists of totally normal activities like vacuuming my house) I am so sore that evening that my legs buckle randomly when I try to walk to the bathroom. Sometimes I have to crawl there. I'm not even kidding.
Take all of that and add random stretch marks and you've got yourself QUITE a party, right????
Why am I sharing this??? Not because I just want to tell people bizarre, personal, and gross things about myself but to share with my fellow preggo sisters that YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Maybe you have experienced all of this, maybe a few things, maybe your pregnancy(cies) have been different. No pregnancy is the same. This one has been much harder on me than Max's. I just want you (and your significant other) to know that you aren't crazy. Or at least you are only temporarily crazy. It takes someone very special to make all of this worth it... and even make us want to do it more than once! And that's exactly what we get... the most special and precious gift in the world. So, hang in there! (I'm mostly speaking to myself when I say that)
Okay so, we all know that pregnancy is a wonderful and miraculous experience. It brings the most amazing blessing that can ever be received. There is nothing that I wouldn't do for my (now 2!) boys, nowhere I wouldn't go for them. There is no greater joy in my life than being their mommy!
I can only speak for myself but, sometimes I feel guilty for complaining about my pregnancy woes. There are so many women who long to get pregnant or to have a healthy pregnancy and my heart aches for them. They may want to slap me for saying this, and that's okay- I understand... but I'm also allowed my opinion and feelings.
I AM OVER BEING PREGNANT.
At 32 weeks with son #2, I am OVER IT. Some women absolutely love being pregnant. They would do it 100x if they could. I am not one of them. This will be our final baby (unless by some act of God) and I have truly tried to enjoy this as much as possible, knowing that I will not be doing this again. But truth be told..... can it be over already?!
A friend of mine who is also pregnant (a few weeks ahead of me) sent me a message earlier this week that read "are you as miserable as I am?" and I replied "YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" It was nice to know that I am not the only one who feels this way! And maybe we *aren't supposed to say it* but some things about pregnancy really are not fun.
This is my experience.
From the time that word "pregnant" shows up on that test... or a double line... or a little + sign appears, it all begins. It's really amazing how quickly things begin to change.
-------1st trimester--------
1. Bloating- take that pre-menstrual bloat and multiply it by 5.
2. Urination- as my body begins to produce more water and my uterus grows, the frequent urination begins.
3. Boobs- my boobs begin to swell (the part I like LOL) but with the good comes the bad and they are so sore, I can't stand to touch them. Also, my veins in them become darker and more prominent and it looks as though someone has drawn a road map across my chest.
4. Fatigue- after doing absolutely nothing, I feel as though I have ran a half marathon. I can't get enough sleep.
5. Moodiness- think I'm moody the week of my period? Imagine that lasting for approximately 10 weeks. Yeah.... my poor husband!! I feel like a monster has invaded my brain and there is nothing I can do about it.
6. Nausea: If I even THINK about going more than 2 hours without a little snack, I am sick. If I eat too much, I am sick. If I eat something that my little womb resident disagrees with, I am sick. However, I was one of the lucky ones. I only vomited a couple times a week and it stopped at the end of the first trimester. Some of my fellow preggo sisters were extremely sick the ENTIRE time. I am SO sorry for them!
The great part about the first trimester is seeing your little babe and hearing their heart beat for the first time. That part is truly awesome and makes the crappiness worth it!
-------2nd trimester-------
Okay, the second trimester (in my opinion) rocks. I regain some energy! My nausea subsides! My moodiness (for the most part *wink wink*) also subsides! My boobs are still getting bigger (score for me!) and I won't complain about that ;-) My nipples are getting large and weird but I don't mind that all that much. And, yes, I'm peeing like a racehorse but who cares?! I feel great! I enjoy indulging in my cravings. I am beginning to have a baby bump and feel sorta cute in my little preggo tops. I also start to feel baby move... which might be my favorite part of all! I also get to find out baby's gender... super exciting!!! If the second trimester lasted forever, I may have a ton of kids! But it doesn't.......
------3rd trimester----------
This is where things get hairy... literally.
1. Weight- obviously weight gain comes with pregnancy and I am totally okay with that. BUT.... all of the sudden I have a ginormous belly. I can hardly bend over to shave my legs. I am shaving other parts blindly. I can't paint my toenails. My belly gets in the way when I try to reach the clothes in the bottom of the washing machine. Nothing fits comfortably except for my husband's clothes. Which, unfortunately, are not acceptable to wear in public.
2. Urination- I am peeing every 1.5 hours through the night. I am peeing when I try to lift Max out of the tub. I am peeing when I bend over to pick up toys. I am peeing ALL THE TIME AND ALL OVER THE PLACE. Someone get me a diaper!!!!!!!!!!
3. Acid reflux- in the past week, I have developed acid reflux. If I bend over, I can feel it. When I'm laying in bed at night, I can feel it. If you've never experienced it, it feels like a burning sensation in your esophagus and every so often a little vomit starts to creep up and then you get to swallow it. It's quite unpleasant.
4. Constipation- enough said. It's also uncomfortable to sit on the toilet for long periods of time. And don't get me started on hemorrhoids.
5. Boobs- they are huge. Which I personally don't mind since "not pregnant Mallory" was not blessed with a large chest. However, the nip situation is out of control. I mean they are getting real weird. And sometimes they leak with a little colostrum. Yep, more bodily fluid leakage.
6. Swelling: felt like going to the zoo last weekend. By the end of the day, my feet were puffy and swollen and you could see the indention of my shoe. Cankles?? Oh yeah!
7. Restless nights- aside from constant urination, it's SO hard to get decent sleep because I am so uncomfortable. I am normally a belly/side sleeper which is obviously out of the question at this point. I find it incredibly odd and uncomfortable to sleep on my back. The solution is to sleep on your side with a body pillow or any pillow wedged between your belly and the bed and also between your legs. This brings great comfort... momentarily. After an hour-ish, the side that I'm laying on has gone numb and I have to switch sides. Repeat approximately 6 times throughout the night.
8. Random aches: my lower back has a constant dull ache. Could be my little guy's position, could be due to the damage on my tailbone from Max's delivery. Whatever it is, it is annoying and painful. My sweet husband gets the task of rubbing it numerous times a week. Lucky him! Also, last night I woke up to cramping in my legs and literally had to get up and start stretching at 3 a.m. Oh, and on days when I've done "too much" (which basically consists of totally normal activities like vacuuming my house) I am so sore that evening that my legs buckle randomly when I try to walk to the bathroom. Sometimes I have to crawl there. I'm not even kidding.
Take all of that and add random stretch marks and you've got yourself QUITE a party, right????
Why am I sharing this??? Not because I just want to tell people bizarre, personal, and gross things about myself but to share with my fellow preggo sisters that YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Maybe you have experienced all of this, maybe a few things, maybe your pregnancy(cies) have been different. No pregnancy is the same. This one has been much harder on me than Max's. I just want you (and your significant other) to know that you aren't crazy. Or at least you are only temporarily crazy. It takes someone very special to make all of this worth it... and even make us want to do it more than once! And that's exactly what we get... the most special and precious gift in the world. So, hang in there! (I'm mostly speaking to myself when I say that)
Thursday, February 6, 2014
Am I Doing Enough?
I often find myself feeling like I have/am dropping the ball when it comes to teaching Max certain things. These are some thoughts that I have had:
Should he be able to count higher?
He doesn't know his ABC's...
Sometimes he names colors correctly, other times they are all blue. Same with shapes.
We don't do enough "activities"...
Does he get enough socialization?
Maybe I allow too much iPad time...
Am I doing enough?
Am I doing enough??????????????
I sometimes feel that since I am a stay at home mom that he should know everything because my "job" is to teach him these things everyday.... right???? Who knows? I recently read a blog post that a friend shared on facebook. It was titled "What should my 4 year old know?" I found it INCREDIBLY refreshing. The author's words really hit home with me. "She should know that she is loved wholly and unconditionally", "She should know that she is safe", "She should know that the world is a magical place", among other things. (I will attach the link to the actual post below)
While some kids are potty trained by 2, others aren't until they are 4. Some 2 year olds can count to 20, some (like Max) cannot and only choose to SOMETIMES count to 10 always skipping the #6 (don't ask why!). Some kids respond to flash cards and will name the contents of said flash cards on command while others (like Max) would rather rip said flash cards and fling them about the room. The point is, all kids are different and they learn at different speeds. We (myself included) should stop worrying about how much they can't do and focus on what they CAN.
This is what I know for sure:
*Max has an awesome imagination! He loves to make believe and pretend that we are different people/creatures and we are in different locations.
*He is polite. He always says "please" "thank you" and "excuse me".
*He knows that mommy is always there to kiss his ouchies and make them better. He knows that daddy will be home after work to wrestle and play.
*He knows that he is safe and loved and he loves us almost as much as we love him! And he tells us that all the time :-)
So, because of that, I know that I am doing enough!
Here is the link to the blog post that I am referring to. If you have a chance, read it. You won't regret it! If you are like me, you will feel validated. You will feel like you are doing enough. Even better than that... you are doing GREAT! :-)
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/alicia-bayer-/what-should-a-4-year-old-know_b_3931921.html
Should he be able to count higher?
He doesn't know his ABC's...
Sometimes he names colors correctly, other times they are all blue. Same with shapes.
We don't do enough "activities"...
Does he get enough socialization?
Maybe I allow too much iPad time...
Am I doing enough?
Am I doing enough??????????????
I sometimes feel that since I am a stay at home mom that he should know everything because my "job" is to teach him these things everyday.... right???? Who knows? I recently read a blog post that a friend shared on facebook. It was titled "What should my 4 year old know?" I found it INCREDIBLY refreshing. The author's words really hit home with me. "She should know that she is loved wholly and unconditionally", "She should know that she is safe", "She should know that the world is a magical place", among other things. (I will attach the link to the actual post below)
While some kids are potty trained by 2, others aren't until they are 4. Some 2 year olds can count to 20, some (like Max) cannot and only choose to SOMETIMES count to 10 always skipping the #6 (don't ask why!). Some kids respond to flash cards and will name the contents of said flash cards on command while others (like Max) would rather rip said flash cards and fling them about the room. The point is, all kids are different and they learn at different speeds. We (myself included) should stop worrying about how much they can't do and focus on what they CAN.
This is what I know for sure:
*Max has an awesome imagination! He loves to make believe and pretend that we are different people/creatures and we are in different locations.
*He is polite. He always says "please" "thank you" and "excuse me".
*He knows that mommy is always there to kiss his ouchies and make them better. He knows that daddy will be home after work to wrestle and play.
*He knows that he is safe and loved and he loves us almost as much as we love him! And he tells us that all the time :-)
So, because of that, I know that I am doing enough!
Here is the link to the blog post that I am referring to. If you have a chance, read it. You won't regret it! If you are like me, you will feel validated. You will feel like you are doing enough. Even better than that... you are doing GREAT! :-)
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/alicia-bayer-/what-should-a-4-year-old-know_b_3931921.html
Holidays & Winter Thus Far
Well I haven't blogged since before Christmas so here's a recap of our fun and busy holiday season!
We found out on December 23 that we are having another BOY! Max is getting a little brother :-) we are SUPER excited! At the beginning of this pregnancy, I thought I was having a girl. Mostly because I found myself much more nauseous and sick this time than with Max. Once I made it through the first trimester, I began to feel the exact same way I felt with Max and so I changed my mind and felt that it was a boy... And I was right! We have had a second ultrasound since then confirming the gender and we (and our bank account!) are happy to have another boy! We have decided to name him Finn Michael. Mike & I tend to be fans of 1 syllable first names and we don't know anyone named Finn so we really love that name! Max & Finn sound like one ornery duo ;-) Michael is obviously my husband's name but it is also my dad's first name so Michael is the perfect choice for Finn's middle name! I am so excited to meet him! I am trying not to wish my pregnancy away but I am just getting very anxious for his arrival! I am now 23 weeks and am hoping and praying to continue having another healthy and uneventful pregnancy.
We had a wonderful Christmas! It was our first Christmas back in Illinois since 2009. Max was spoiled per usual and got lots of toys, including a power wheels mustang car... Which he loved! I am looking forward to warmer weather so that he can ride it all over our neighborhood. We spent the day at our house and my parents and 2 younger siblings came over for lunch. It was a great day! We rung in the New Year at my friend Caitlin's house with a few friends and Max even stayed awake til midnight!! Then he promptly fell asleep in the car before we left the driveway at 12:10 ;-) and we all slept in until 10am on New Years Day!
January brought us a good friend's wedding (congrats, Baziles!) and LOTS of snow! I passed my 3 hour glucose test which my doc made me take early this pregnancy and am happy to report that I do not have gestational diabetes this time!! Yay! We took Max to see Sesame Street Live. He loved it!! He was only upset that he couldn't join the characters on stage. My younger Marine brother Taylor made it back to the good ol US of A after a 7 month deployment and we are SO grateful for his safe return! We get to see him next week and can hardly wait! It's been over 2 years since I have seen him! With him and us being military, we have been unable to coordinate visits back to IL at the same time... Until now since we live here again :-D
This brings us to... February! We hosted a Super Bowl party for Mike's co-workers and their families. We had a great turn out! The kids had a blast playing together and I was happy to meet some more Air Force wives here! I feel with living off base here and having our longtime friends and family close, I haven't been as connected to the base/Air Force as I would like to be. Lately I have been meeting more wives and attending play dates and activities to try and get more involved.. And also to give Max some social interaction! He needs some more buddies around his age and I miss having a lot of mommy friends like I had in Wyoming!
February is going to keep us busy! This weekend I am hosting a mini shower/celebration for one of my best friends, Bailey, and her baby girl Mila who will be making her appearance Earthside in 1 month! :-) Next weekend we will venture down to my parents' house to see Taylor and spend the weekend with my side of the family (all of us will be together- yippee!) and the weekend after that, Mike, Max & I are heading to San Antonio! Mike has to take a week long class and is taking a few extra days off so Max & I are going with him for a little mini vacation! I am super excited! We haven't traveled in a while and I am looking forward to getting away for a week and a half! I can't wait to take Max to Sea World and other fun activities! We are driving though so THAT should be interesting since we all know that Max is not the best car seat rider.
Max is doing great! He is becoming more aware of Finn.. Or "Pen" as he sometimes calls him. He says "Finn is in mommy's belly, not daddy's belly" and yesterday he told me that he loved Finn (tear*) so sweet! He hasn't had a pee pee accident in forever-- even at night!! He is such a big boy! He was so easy to potty train that it's almost shocking! He has such a fun imagination and I love to hear him play and talk to his toys. His newest obsession is ninja turtles and he really believes that he is one-haha! He is such a sweet boy and he is learning lately the importance of sharing and taking turns with friends.
Finn and I are doing great too! I am feeling really good... Sort of uncomfortable at times but great for the most part! I don't really sleep well at night. Between the pee breaks (approximately 4-5 times) and Finn's constant moving and kicking, I am quickly reminded of the lack of sleep that awaits me in the near future! It's much different being pregnant this time around with an active toddler and it has confirmed that I do only desire to have 2 children. So, I am trying to enjoy this pregnancy as much as possible because it will be our last! And no, we will not try again for a girl ;-) we are perfectly content with 2 boys!
Thanks for reading!! Until next time. Xoxo
Thursday, December 12, 2013
Potty Like A Rockstar
Potty training sucks. There is no way around it. It just plain stinks--- literally and figuratively. I've only been at it for about a week and a half and therefore am in no position to start dishing out tips. However, I will share our experience and some advice that was given to me!
It has been interesting and I can proudly say at this point that Max is doing GREAT!
We bought a potty chair in August when Max turned 2. He loved the thing and would sometimes go on it (mostly when I was also using the potty, he would sit on his next to me and go too). I never once asked him to use it or asked him if he needed to go, I mostly just wanted him to become familiar with it. He knew what it was for so that was good enough for me!
Since I spent most of the fall newly pregnant and nauseous, I had zero desire to potty train. I was tired and sick and I didn't have the patience to deal with it. Plus, I also didn't feel that Max was totally ready. Yes, he had used the potty several times randomly but I didn't feel that he was ready to go full time and I wanted to make sure that he was to make the dreaded process as easy on us as possible.
We spent Thanksgiving week at my parents house and Max started using the toilet on his own. Numerous times that week I would say "where did Max go?" And we would find him in the bathroom sitting on the toilet alone. Maybe it was because he had been watching his 3 year old cousin Mabrie go on it all week, I'm not sure. But for whatever reason, he was using the potty! One night he drug his uncle Luke by the hand into the bathroom and went #2, one night we were at a restaurant and he told Mike that he needed to go and he went in a public restroom! I was in shock!! My sister in law who has potty trained my 3 nieces said "I've never seen a kid do that! He is definitely ready!"
And so, he had left me no choice. I was forced to start putting him in undies and commit.
I started out by putting him in his big boy undies and explained that if he needed to go pee or poop, he needed to go on the potty and not in his big boy pants. He said "okay mommy". I put his potty chair out in the open for easy access and began asking him every 20-30 minutes if he needed to go. Sometimes he said yes, sometimes he said no, sometimes he took off his pants and went on his own without being asked. I rewarded him with M&Ms for a few days until one day he peed on the potty and I said "Yay! Let's get an M&M!" And he replied "No tank you. I don't want a MM." Which was adorable and made me realize that he wasn't just doing it for the candy. He was basically over getting an M&M every time.
Most days he has had ZERO accidents!!!! There was 1 really rough day last week that I wanted to give up. After several days of no accidents, he had 4 in 1 day-- one of which was poo-- and I wanted to shoot myself. BUT I didn't want to ruin all of our progress and so we kept on and he has done AWESOME ever since that 1 awful day. We have even ventured out of the house a couple of times and have had zero accidents on our outings! Yay!!
Advice given to me that I found helpful:
1. Don't ask, tell. After the one brutal day I tried to stop asking "Max do you need to go potty?" And started saying "Max, take off your pants and go potty real quick and then you can continue ___" And he would. As the days go on, I have to remind him to go less and less. He mostly does it on his own but if I notice it has been a while since he has, I will remind him to use the potty.
2. Praise, praise, praise. I told Max that it "makes mommy SO happy when he goes on the potty" and so now when I go to the bathroom he tells me that he is happy for me as well LOL "Me happy mommy!" He says.
3. After the day I wanted to run away, a friend suggested to me that I give it another week and see if there was progress. If he was having more accidents in his pants than going on the potty at that point, I should re-evaluate whether or not he is ready. I thought that was a great plan and so I decided to go with that. I am happy to report that he has made major progress and so, Max is wearing underwear full time during the day!
With consistency and A LOT of patience, we have made it! So proud of my big boy!!!
It has been interesting and I can proudly say at this point that Max is doing GREAT!
We bought a potty chair in August when Max turned 2. He loved the thing and would sometimes go on it (mostly when I was also using the potty, he would sit on his next to me and go too). I never once asked him to use it or asked him if he needed to go, I mostly just wanted him to become familiar with it. He knew what it was for so that was good enough for me!
Since I spent most of the fall newly pregnant and nauseous, I had zero desire to potty train. I was tired and sick and I didn't have the patience to deal with it. Plus, I also didn't feel that Max was totally ready. Yes, he had used the potty several times randomly but I didn't feel that he was ready to go full time and I wanted to make sure that he was to make the dreaded process as easy on us as possible.
We spent Thanksgiving week at my parents house and Max started using the toilet on his own. Numerous times that week I would say "where did Max go?" And we would find him in the bathroom sitting on the toilet alone. Maybe it was because he had been watching his 3 year old cousin Mabrie go on it all week, I'm not sure. But for whatever reason, he was using the potty! One night he drug his uncle Luke by the hand into the bathroom and went #2, one night we were at a restaurant and he told Mike that he needed to go and he went in a public restroom! I was in shock!! My sister in law who has potty trained my 3 nieces said "I've never seen a kid do that! He is definitely ready!"
And so, he had left me no choice. I was forced to start putting him in undies and commit.
I started out by putting him in his big boy undies and explained that if he needed to go pee or poop, he needed to go on the potty and not in his big boy pants. He said "okay mommy". I put his potty chair out in the open for easy access and began asking him every 20-30 minutes if he needed to go. Sometimes he said yes, sometimes he said no, sometimes he took off his pants and went on his own without being asked. I rewarded him with M&Ms for a few days until one day he peed on the potty and I said "Yay! Let's get an M&M!" And he replied "No tank you. I don't want a MM." Which was adorable and made me realize that he wasn't just doing it for the candy. He was basically over getting an M&M every time.
Most days he has had ZERO accidents!!!! There was 1 really rough day last week that I wanted to give up. After several days of no accidents, he had 4 in 1 day-- one of which was poo-- and I wanted to shoot myself. BUT I didn't want to ruin all of our progress and so we kept on and he has done AWESOME ever since that 1 awful day. We have even ventured out of the house a couple of times and have had zero accidents on our outings! Yay!!
Advice given to me that I found helpful:
1. Don't ask, tell. After the one brutal day I tried to stop asking "Max do you need to go potty?" And started saying "Max, take off your pants and go potty real quick and then you can continue ___" And he would. As the days go on, I have to remind him to go less and less. He mostly does it on his own but if I notice it has been a while since he has, I will remind him to use the potty.
2. Praise, praise, praise. I told Max that it "makes mommy SO happy when he goes on the potty" and so now when I go to the bathroom he tells me that he is happy for me as well LOL "Me happy mommy!" He says.
3. After the day I wanted to run away, a friend suggested to me that I give it another week and see if there was progress. If he was having more accidents in his pants than going on the potty at that point, I should re-evaluate whether or not he is ready. I thought that was a great plan and so I decided to go with that. I am happy to report that he has made major progress and so, Max is wearing underwear full time during the day!
With consistency and A LOT of patience, we have made it! So proud of my big boy!!!
Monday, December 9, 2013
2013
Whoa. It's a year later. Let me just say that 2013 has HANDS DOWN been the craziest year of my life thus far. In early 2013 I didn't have much to report on my blog and then things went CRAZY and I've been busy ever since. Frankly, I forgot about blogging!! :-(
567yuvvvvvvvvvvvv3 -----> and that was Max saying hi!
Anyway, I'M BACK! I'm going to do a quick re-cap of this year and all its craziness. I'm sure that the majority of those who read this blog know all of this but just in case, here we go!
January: Nothing. Mike had surgery and I was sad that we didn't know the future of our family at that point. We didn't know if he would be able to attend his training and we didn't know if we would be moving..... we also weren't even certain of his job security at the time. It was a difficult month.
February: Nothing. It was cold in Wyoming.
March: Mike leaves for training in Texas-- WOO HOO!!!! We were SO excited! Max and I went to stay with family in Illinois while he was in training for the next 10 weeks.
April: Max & I were enjoying spring in Illinois. I went on a weekend trip to Nashville with my girlfriends and had a blast! I also did my first 5k. We were told that we would not be moving... we would be going back to Wyoming after Mike's training. I bawled my eyes out. Max began talking a little more... I was usually the only one who understood but he was trying!
May: Mike graduated from his training (and he was awarded the Distinguished Graduate award! Yes, I'm bragging) and headed back to Wyoming for a week before joining us in Illinois for 2 weeks of leave and then we would all fly back to WY together. Mike submitted his Base of Preference list. We weren't hopeful but it was worth a shot! The day before Mike came to Illinois, we found out that we were granted our #1 base of preference!!!! We were moving back to Illinois in August and Mike would begin his new job that he had trained for in Texas. ECSTATIC does not even begin to describe our feeling at that time, and still to this day I am in shock that we are here!!! For our military friends who do not know, this is literally home! My hometown is 45 minutes from here. We went to college 20 minutes from here and Mike actually lived in this town while we were dating. We are within 1-1.5 hours from both of our parents. Max gets to see his grandparents anytime!! AND a bonus for me is, I live between 10 and 45 minutes from all of my best friends. It's FANTASTIC! So, needless to say, we were VERY happy to get this news. Mike flew to Illinois and we got to be a family again after 2.5 months! Yay!!! We also needed to figure out our living situation for August while we were here. We looked at a house to rent and after some discussion we realized that we would be paying the same amount every month for rent that we would for a mortgage..... Soooooo we...... BOUGHT A HOUSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! In the middle of this, Mike turned 28. May was CRAZY.
June: Mike & I attended a close friend's wedding and then flew back to WY to spend our last couple of months there. We bought some new furniture for our new house :-) and I turned 26!
July: We packed and sold stuff that we didn't want to take with us. Thanks to technology and an awesome realtor, we were able to do all of the paperwork for our house from a distance. Max and I said goodbye to Wyoming and flew to Illinois for the LAST time so that I could close on our house and Mike would join us 10 days later once he was released from work. We closed on our house and waited for Mike to get here with our stuff so we could move in!
August: Mike came with the moving truck on the 1st and we moved in! 1 week later, Max turned 2!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We had a small get together at our new house and then took him to run around at Monkey Joe's (an indoor heaven for kids to run around and play on those inflatable bouncy house things and slides) he loved it. A week after Max turned one, we got rid of his best friend... his pacifier (his bah, as he called it). I dreaded the day BUT it was unbelievably easy! He dropped his last one into the toilet and so I told him that we flushed it. He said "okay" and that was that! Never cried for it again. I'm also still in shock about that! I went to Chicago with my girlfriends for a weekend. Mike started his new job.... which he LOVES. Yay!!
September: The 3 of us spent Labor Day weekend at the lake with friends. Max had SOO much fun swimming! I had to make him get out of the pool. Max had his first injury that required a hospital visit. He was running in my bedroom and fell and hit his cheek on the bed. It split open and I thought he needed stitches. They were able to glue it instead but my poor baby's perfect face now has a scar :-( We were enjoying our new house and Mike's new job with a great schedule (which we had not been used to). We were getting settled into our new home and life and we were loving it when....... I found out that I was expecting. Yep, I'm pregnant! Surprise!! I was only 3 weeks when I found out. It was SO early but I just KNEW that something was up. I was right.
October: I was in one of my best friend's weddings. I mostly spent this month sick and moody. I was never sick with Max and this time, I definitely was. I didn't throw up daily, but I did almost daily. I was EXHAUSTED. I forgot how tired you are during the first trimester and I was quickly reminded. I kept thinking that I didn't remember it being this hard at the beginning with Max and that's because he was my first. This time around, I was tired and sick and wanted to do nothing but lay on the couch and I couldn't because I had a 2 year old to take care of. Whew. It was a lonnnnggg month. Max was supposed to be Buzz Lightyear for Halloween but he threw a fit and refused to wear his costume so we handed out candy instead of trick or treating.
November: Mike was in his best friend's wedding. We celebrated our 3 year wedding anniversary. I had my first doctor's appointment at 11 weeks and we got to see our newest baby for the first time via ultrasound. Holy cow, this is REAL! It hadn't seemed real up until that point. I was growing so much faster than I did with Max so I thought that there could have been multiples but nope, just 1! Which means, I'm just way bigger this time. GREAT. We celebrated Thanksgiving with family and hosted our first family get together at our new home! It was so great to have everyone to OUR house and there was plenty of space and toys for the kids in the playroom. The nausea has subsided for the most part, fortunately!! Max is a full blown little man. He talks 24/7. I mean the kid doesn't stop. I have to tell him at naptime and bedtime that it's time to stop talking because it never ends!! I love to hear him and have conversations with him though. He has the cutest voice ever!!!!!!!! He has also decided to start going potty on his own... he even went in a public restroom after telling Mike that he needed to go and therefore has forced me into potty training.
December: We decorated our home for Christmas! I am so excited to spend Christmas in our new home this year. The presents under the tree are tempting Max but he keeps reminding himself "I have to wait". He literally says that to himself everyday LOL we started potty training a week ago. After one REALLY rough day, he has been doing AWESOME. That will be another post for later this week.
Whew! Now, I'm exhausted after writing all of that. Now you all can see how crazy our life has been this year and cut me a little slack for zero blog posts for an ENTIRE YEAR :-( Now that we are settled into our life again, I will try to keep up! We have an exciting couple of weeks coming!! We have an ultrasound on the 23rd to find out baby #2's gender and then it's Christmas!!! I am so excited to see Max's face on Christmas morning when he sees what Santa brought him :-D Stay tuned!!!!!!
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567yuvvvvvvvvvvvv3 -----> and that was Max saying hi!
Anyway, I'M BACK! I'm going to do a quick re-cap of this year and all its craziness. I'm sure that the majority of those who read this blog know all of this but just in case, here we go!
January: Nothing. Mike had surgery and I was sad that we didn't know the future of our family at that point. We didn't know if he would be able to attend his training and we didn't know if we would be moving..... we also weren't even certain of his job security at the time. It was a difficult month.
February: Nothing. It was cold in Wyoming.
March: Mike leaves for training in Texas-- WOO HOO!!!! We were SO excited! Max and I went to stay with family in Illinois while he was in training for the next 10 weeks.
April: Max & I were enjoying spring in Illinois. I went on a weekend trip to Nashville with my girlfriends and had a blast! I also did my first 5k. We were told that we would not be moving... we would be going back to Wyoming after Mike's training. I bawled my eyes out. Max began talking a little more... I was usually the only one who understood but he was trying!
May: Mike graduated from his training (and he was awarded the Distinguished Graduate award! Yes, I'm bragging) and headed back to Wyoming for a week before joining us in Illinois for 2 weeks of leave and then we would all fly back to WY together. Mike submitted his Base of Preference list. We weren't hopeful but it was worth a shot! The day before Mike came to Illinois, we found out that we were granted our #1 base of preference!!!! We were moving back to Illinois in August and Mike would begin his new job that he had trained for in Texas. ECSTATIC does not even begin to describe our feeling at that time, and still to this day I am in shock that we are here!!! For our military friends who do not know, this is literally home! My hometown is 45 minutes from here. We went to college 20 minutes from here and Mike actually lived in this town while we were dating. We are within 1-1.5 hours from both of our parents. Max gets to see his grandparents anytime!! AND a bonus for me is, I live between 10 and 45 minutes from all of my best friends. It's FANTASTIC! So, needless to say, we were VERY happy to get this news. Mike flew to Illinois and we got to be a family again after 2.5 months! Yay!!! We also needed to figure out our living situation for August while we were here. We looked at a house to rent and after some discussion we realized that we would be paying the same amount every month for rent that we would for a mortgage..... Soooooo we...... BOUGHT A HOUSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! In the middle of this, Mike turned 28. May was CRAZY.
June: Mike & I attended a close friend's wedding and then flew back to WY to spend our last couple of months there. We bought some new furniture for our new house :-) and I turned 26!
July: We packed and sold stuff that we didn't want to take with us. Thanks to technology and an awesome realtor, we were able to do all of the paperwork for our house from a distance. Max and I said goodbye to Wyoming and flew to Illinois for the LAST time so that I could close on our house and Mike would join us 10 days later once he was released from work. We closed on our house and waited for Mike to get here with our stuff so we could move in!
August: Mike came with the moving truck on the 1st and we moved in! 1 week later, Max turned 2!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We had a small get together at our new house and then took him to run around at Monkey Joe's (an indoor heaven for kids to run around and play on those inflatable bouncy house things and slides) he loved it. A week after Max turned one, we got rid of his best friend... his pacifier (his bah, as he called it). I dreaded the day BUT it was unbelievably easy! He dropped his last one into the toilet and so I told him that we flushed it. He said "okay" and that was that! Never cried for it again. I'm also still in shock about that! I went to Chicago with my girlfriends for a weekend. Mike started his new job.... which he LOVES. Yay!!
September: The 3 of us spent Labor Day weekend at the lake with friends. Max had SOO much fun swimming! I had to make him get out of the pool. Max had his first injury that required a hospital visit. He was running in my bedroom and fell and hit his cheek on the bed. It split open and I thought he needed stitches. They were able to glue it instead but my poor baby's perfect face now has a scar :-( We were enjoying our new house and Mike's new job with a great schedule (which we had not been used to). We were getting settled into our new home and life and we were loving it when....... I found out that I was expecting. Yep, I'm pregnant! Surprise!! I was only 3 weeks when I found out. It was SO early but I just KNEW that something was up. I was right.
October: I was in one of my best friend's weddings. I mostly spent this month sick and moody. I was never sick with Max and this time, I definitely was. I didn't throw up daily, but I did almost daily. I was EXHAUSTED. I forgot how tired you are during the first trimester and I was quickly reminded. I kept thinking that I didn't remember it being this hard at the beginning with Max and that's because he was my first. This time around, I was tired and sick and wanted to do nothing but lay on the couch and I couldn't because I had a 2 year old to take care of. Whew. It was a lonnnnggg month. Max was supposed to be Buzz Lightyear for Halloween but he threw a fit and refused to wear his costume so we handed out candy instead of trick or treating.
November: Mike was in his best friend's wedding. We celebrated our 3 year wedding anniversary. I had my first doctor's appointment at 11 weeks and we got to see our newest baby for the first time via ultrasound. Holy cow, this is REAL! It hadn't seemed real up until that point. I was growing so much faster than I did with Max so I thought that there could have been multiples but nope, just 1! Which means, I'm just way bigger this time. GREAT. We celebrated Thanksgiving with family and hosted our first family get together at our new home! It was so great to have everyone to OUR house and there was plenty of space and toys for the kids in the playroom. The nausea has subsided for the most part, fortunately!! Max is a full blown little man. He talks 24/7. I mean the kid doesn't stop. I have to tell him at naptime and bedtime that it's time to stop talking because it never ends!! I love to hear him and have conversations with him though. He has the cutest voice ever!!!!!!!! He has also decided to start going potty on his own... he even went in a public restroom after telling Mike that he needed to go and therefore has forced me into potty training.
December: We decorated our home for Christmas! I am so excited to spend Christmas in our new home this year. The presents under the tree are tempting Max but he keeps reminding himself "I have to wait". He literally says that to himself everyday LOL we started potty training a week ago. After one REALLY rough day, he has been doing AWESOME. That will be another post for later this week.
Whew! Now, I'm exhausted after writing all of that. Now you all can see how crazy our life has been this year and cut me a little slack for zero blog posts for an ENTIRE YEAR :-( Now that we are settled into our life again, I will try to keep up! We have an exciting couple of weeks coming!! We have an ultrasound on the 23rd to find out baby #2's gender and then it's Christmas!!! I am so excited to see Max's face on Christmas morning when he sees what Santa brought him :-D Stay tuned!!!!!!
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